How to Have Fun With That Relative Whose Opinions You Can't Stand This Thanksgiving
— November 24, 2021
By Jonathan Haidt and Caroline Mehl
If you had the choice, which of these two menus would you rather serve:
Menu A: Fight for truth and virtue
- Appetizer: Identify people with bad beliefs
- Main course: Prove those people wrong
- Dessert: Change their thinking so that they share your good beliefs
Menu B: Have fun
- Appetizer: Improve relationships among everyone around the table
- Main course: Make the meal enjoyable and memorable
- Dessert: Make yourself smarter
If you’d prefer to serve Menu A, you can stop reading now, although we should note that nobody has ever served this menu and made it to dessert. But if you’d like to try Menu B, please keep reading. As co-founders of a non-profit organization dedicated to helping Americans bridge divides, we’ve been developing recipes for Menu B ever since the 2016 election, when it seemed that America could not get any more divided. Well, guess what? A recent survey by researchers at the University of Virginia found that 52% of Trump voters and 41% of Biden voters said that they would “favor [Blue/Red] states seceding from the union to form their own separate country.” Yes, they literally backed secession.
Read the full TIME article.
Jonathan Haidt is the Thomas Cooley Professor of Ethical Leadership.